I’ve
loved Vancouver, B.C. since I first saw it in 1989. I love it more today than ever, because in
1993, Christina Bell came to a workshop I was co-facilitating in Burnaby, B.C.,
a Vancouver suburb, on a Friday night early in the year.
She
didn’t want to be there. Her boss
insisted that she attend. When the
workshop ended at 9:30, Christina was more than ready to go home. However, she was forced to go to a nearby
restaurant with the event sponsors, the speakers, and a few other hanger-ons,
by the same boss who had insisted she attend the workshop, the one who had
picked her up in Vancouver and drove her to Burnaby.
I
was never happy about socializing after speaking. Three hours of maximum energy expenditure
never left much for conversation. It was
only natural that Christina and I talked quietly at the end of a long table
while the rest of the party paid homage to each other at the other end.
We
talked about a lot of things our first hour together. I remember two of them like the conversation
occurred last night. I am a Vietnam
Veteran. I volunteered to serve there
and had to extend my service obligation sixteen months in order to go to
Vietnam. Christina was a Vietnam War
Protester. She wasn’t a wave-a-sign on a
sunny day protester, but rather a protester who gave up her family, her
position in a doctoral program, and her country for her convictions. When she finished telling me her story, she
waited for my reaction. I looked in her
eyes and said, “You were right, you know.”
The
second thing I remember from that first conversation is inviting her to
Sunday’s workshop. Not only did she
attend, she sat on the front row.
We
became pen pals. Over the next two years
we filled seven large journals with our correspondence. We had three of the books in play at all
times. We each had one, which we made
entries in, until the one in the mail arrived.
At that time, we had twenty-four hours to send the one we had been
writing in.
Late
on a July afternoon in 1995, I pointed my red Jeep west and left Alabama – my destination,
Vancouver. I took a slight detour in
Iowa to visit the bridges of Madison County.
Because I couldn’t wait any longer, I asked Christina to meet me in
Missoula, Montana. She didn’t have a
problem with that.
Two
days later we left Vancouver with a large U-Haul trailer behind the Jeep. We drove to Edmonton, where Fred, Christina’s
ex, hosted a going away party and we picked up Christina’s great dog,
Tigger.
That
happened almost seventeen years ago.
Today, my wife, Christina Carson, is celebrating her sixty-sixth
birthday. Nineteen of those years have
included me – every day of each one of them has been special.
Happy
birthday, my love…